I didn’t have a problem with self confidence, nor was I missing love from my father. My dad raised us to be independent, strong willed, and proud. The future looked bright.  However, I was a victim of abuse. There’s a misconception that abused individuals have low self esteem, or they’re weak. Some think we’ve witnessed abuse at home. Although these are factors in some cases, this wasn’t true for me.

It’s shameful how society will judge victims. From experience, I’ve heard responses such as, “My mother didn’t raise me like that.” Or, “I will never allow my partner to mistreat me.”  Honestly, I’m guilty of having that mindset in my youth. Even though, my grandmother told me a long time ago, “Never say never, don’t say what you won’t go through because we don’t know what  life will hand us.”

He didn’t start as a monster. Usually, that is the case, but they sometimes show subtle signs. For instance, if he’s possessive that isn’t affection or love. They will attempt to break your spirit, in order to keep you captive. Miss Jezebella, a fellow blogger, gives detailed insight on abuse. I commend Jezebella for opening up, that’s something I can’t bring myself to do. (TW: domestic and sexual abuse).